Time really does heal all wounds...

This is a photo of the amazing view from my brothers dining table, he bought this property years ago and as you can see it was one of the best decisions of his life. We are lucky to be staying here for the next week as my brother has gone away with his wife and her family on their annual holiday up the coast. The two photos on the window sill are of my wedding and my ex husbands wedding to his now wife. Bizarre that at my twin brothers house there would be a framed wedding picture of my ex husband with his wife but she happens to be my twin brothers wife's sister. Are you with me? I have a twin brother who has a wife, who's sister married my ex husband. They got together a couple of years after we broke up so nothing sinister in it but tricky to say the least, do-able?... I can now say yes. I'll never forget the day I found out they were getting married, I sobbed in my brothers kitchen, stating that I was terrified I was "out". My sister-in-law and her sister are naturally very close and of course my brother had to prioritise his wife's happiness. They assured me I wouldn't be but I was very frightened my relationship with my brother was going to be severely damaged. We have had many very tense moments, lots of tears, a few fights (all instigated by me) out of my insecurity and fear of losing my brother. But I can now say (after.... I think about 10 yrs) we are all in a completely different space. I used to get so upset every year when my brother would go on holidays with my ex as I always felt I was missing out. It just didn't seem right that my children were away having fun with their Dad and my twin brother, I really felt like I didn't belong anywhere. steve used to always try and make up for it (not that it was any of his fault) but I used to be upset the week before they went, the week they were away and the week after. They used to hide the wedding photo when I would stay and I'm sure when my ex and his wife came over for dinner they would hide my wedding picture, but now it's all good. I am so thankful that we all got through it as it could have had a completely different end result. My sister-on-law and brother really have been in the middle of this "mess" and to their credit have handled it probably way better than I or most people could ever have. My poor girlfriends have had to listen to me complain and cry on numerous occasions as well. We never know what life is going to throw us do we? We sometimes end up in situations we never thought we would be but somehow we get through them and I'd like to think we are better people for it. So, both pictures are on the window sill and will stay that way, time really does heal all wounds. X